Suicide Chronicles

A partial answer to the why of it.

Mary Lou Heater
9 min readSep 22, 2021

The science is unclear about the tipping point that leads some people to decide to end their lives. The act of suicide is neither one of courage nor cowardice, but it could be considered, for some, the ultimate maladaptive coping mechanism.

Suicidal ideation can be passive or active; the gesture intentional, accidental or impulsive. Passive thoughts are similar to it would be okay if I didn’t wake up in the morning, my family would be better off without me or I wish I could go to sleep and not wake up. An active ideation involves a plan, intent and sometimes premeditation. A young woman once took a knife into the bathroom, got in the tub (not wanting to make a mess for her mother to clean up) and proceeded to cut her wrist. However, the knife was dull, the skin tough and besides, it hurt. Maybe she’d try another time or method.

Malcolm Gladwell posited in Talking to Strangers, that Sylvia Plath’s death required the perfect convergence of events that resulted in putting her head in the gas oven that ultimately led to her demise. Had the place, season or circumstances unfolded differently, he argued, she would not have died that day.

Accidental acts, like overdoses, may happen when partying, celebrating or commiserating by mixing too many pharmaceuticals that then ends in death…

--

--

Mary Lou Heater

Doctor of Nursing Practice specializing in adult mental heath, aging and addictions. Writer, lover of words, and ideas.